The following is an excerpt from “Created to Connect: A Christian’s Guide to the Connected Child.” From Dr. Karyn Purvis with Michael and Amy Monroe, “Created to Connect” serves as a dynamic resource for those looking to draw helpful, encouraging parallels between the Christian faith and the foundational teachings of Trust-Based Relational Intervention® (TBRI®).
What should you do with a child so accustomed that they are afraid to not be afraid? How can you help this child the most?
Fear is the problem. Fear can often be seen as a chameleon in our children’s lives. Fear can be the cause of what many parents mistakenly interpret as poor behavior, defiance, manipulation, immaturity or rotten attitudes. Often, fear isn’t easily identifiable, so it helps to know what you’re looking for. Working with children [who are vulnerable]The vast majority of the information we learn about our children is based on what they do. As an example, we can see that children who are constantly afraid tend to be hypervigilant.
In order to avoid this, we must be vigilant for…